How to have a sense of trust and commitment without fear

To believe that someone is good and honest and will not harm you or that something is safe and reliable .

A coiled baby cat is lying in the palm of my hand, its belly exposed and facing me. As I watch it breathe in my palm, I think about how defenseless it is. Defenseless and defenseless against any danger that may come from me.

No news of all this, how surrendered it sleeps in my hands. How could I possibly harm it, even the thought of it makes my heart ache. I caress it with an air of fear of my own power, and as I caress it, I murmur to it in a soft tone, so that it feels that no harm will come from me. I look at what I can do to make it trust me without fear.

Well, does a baby feel any different in a mother's hands? What does a mother murmur to her baby while holding him in her arms?

What happens in the early years of life that trust can make some of us feel vulnerable and open to being vulnerable?

What happens when trust gives way to suspicion? This suspicion is such that it is like walking on broken glass, it is uncanny. A person who is suspicious pays excessive attention to any situation or event so that he can notice the danger and thus protect himself.

A person who lives in such a state falls far away from experiencing love and being loved, even if he desires to. He cannot feel what it means to establish a deep bond with a person.

In nature, attachment is thought to be important in the development of trust or distrust beliefs. The basic beliefs a person develops in the early years of their life can have an impact on their relationships and behaviors throughout their life.

Perhaps the most important of these is the belief in trust. Feeling trust is vital in many ways. The most important is interpersonal relational cooperation.

The trust people have in each other enables them to establish and maintain emotional bonds. In this relationship of trust, we are freed from our anxieties related to life and experience emotional well-being. This bond between two people is also the cornerstone of helping each other and living justly on a social level.

From the moment you are conceived, this bonding adventure that develops and transforms starting from the relationship you establish with your first caregiver, forms a very fundamental part of your entire life.

The fabric of your bonding with yourself and the outside world begins to be woven from the moment you cling to the uterine wall. In this journey that begins by clinging to the uterine wall, the consciousness of the baby, who experiences himself through the mother's eyes, is woven stitch by stitch by the mother.

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