How to make those you love grow and flourish

The difference between liking and loving was highlighted in the works of Jay Shetty. This distinction had not crossed my mind often, but it's a valuable perspective. The quote explaining this difference resonates:

"If you like a flower, you pick it. If you love a flower, you water it."

This saying originated from a classroom discussion where a student asked a teacher about the difference between liking and loving someone. The response illustrates the need for nurturing relationships over superficial ones.

By "watering" those we love, we encourage their growth and well-being while respecting their individuality, which is a true act of love.

Five ways to “water” those you love include:

Active listening: In today's world of social media, finding time to listen can be challenging. Listening well means being present, empathizing, and understanding the other person's viewpoint.

Improve your listening by asking them to repeat things you're unsure about, asking meaningful questions, and holding back your own opinions. This shows you value their thoughts and feelings.

Positive feedback: Providing supportive feedback helps loved ones grow. Acknowledge their strengths and efforts with encouraging words and constructive solutions instead of being critical.

Time and presence: Investing time in relationships is essential. Whether sharing a meal, taking a walk, or joining in activities they enjoy, dedicating time shows you prioritize the relationship.

Support in tough times: Being there for someone during difficult moments is crucial. Whether offering practical help, a listening ear, or resources, your support aids in their growth.

Celebrate successes: Life brings both challenges and successes, both small and large. Celebrating these milestones together strengthens your bond and encourages positive growth. It shows you appreciate each other's achievements.

Some may think that "watering" loved ones requires time and effort without immediate benefits. This mindset can lead to neglecting the growth of others.

However, nurturing relationships fosters deeper connections. When both people feel valued, the bond becomes stronger and lasts longer.

Additionally, helping others grow creates a positive environment where everyone thrives. This promotes collective well-being.

Research shows that altruistic behavior enhances our mental health. By "watering" others, we also take care of ourselves. This approach to relationships becomes a mutual exchange.

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