My Dominating Sister
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Between me and my sister we have a 2 years gap. She is the elder one, but sometimes she behaves as if we have a 20 year gap and this has been since childhood. She has always been very protective about me and she still thinks that I should be given guidance at every step. Sometimes I tell her that now I am grown up and I can make decisions, but you know these elder siblings they never have that faith....hehehe.
Well she is the sweetest sister and my pillar of strength. While I am independent now and matured enough to make my own decisions of life, but if there is any problem for me or I need any guidance then the first person to go to is her. She always has solutions for me, and after talking to her I get that feeling of being relieved. She has the warmth of a Mother and the care of a sister.
One thing she does not like about me, is that I spend too much. Actually I do not, but she thinks it that way. The thing is that both of us have been brought up in an environment where money was always a crunch and we have never had leisure things of life. Everything was just about necessity. She keeps going back to those days, and I tell her, that we are now out of that, so she should not be going back to the past. What has gone is past and holds no relevance now except for some lessons learnt. She is not a miser, but she does not like to spend on luxuries. For me it is not like that. I believe in enjoying life, travelling, and also spending on luxuries sometimes. We work hard for what? Just saving everything thinking of the old age all the time and not spending is not my idea of life. I would like to live the now moment equally.
That's the 2 of us
Most of the people die with big bank balance left for their children. I do not wish to do that. Not that I do not believe in saving. I do, but I would like to do it proportionally and enjoy my life equally while I am young. Her thinking is that we should have a very big saving for the old age because you do not know what it will bring and considering the medical expenses are so high nowadays she worries more.
Just before I travelled to Mumbai I thought of buying some things for her. I normally like to ask her if she would want anything in particular and I also know her answer. She would get angry at me, saying, how much unnecessarily I am spending. It was the same this time as well. When I called her, for 15 minutes she gave me a talk on life and then sternly told me not to buy anything. :-) I just said ok and then continued with my shopping.
Sometimes I get annoyed with her behavior, but I feel that it's good to have some one like that in your life, who can scold you, who can guide you, who can handhold you. She is one person of power in my life and I know that she will always be there for me no matter what.
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