FRACTURED TRUST (PART2): THE UNSPOKEN PAIN

Hello my fellow steemians, in this prestigious community; I am still emmathompson. I welcome everyone to my new post.

PART B

This post is meant for every single person and married couple here in steemit, especially those with one marriage challenge or the other. I pray that this article help you fix your broken heart, relationship and marriage.

The part B(men), which is the scope of this post will be broken up into six(6) sections:

1. Revision on marriage

2. Who is a man?

3. Why men cheat?

4. Signs of a man's infidelity

5. Consequences of his action

6. Final consideration and morals.

7. REVISION ON MARRIAGE

In my previous post, I said that marriage has several definition depending on individuals. But in general, marriage is a legal union between a man and a woman involving emotional, physical, financial, and spiritual commitment. It also involves emotional bond, commitment, partnership, intimacy, financial unity, social recognition, family (building a life together, potentially including children).

1. WHO IS A MAN?

The definition of a man is very simple compared to that of a woman. A man is an adult male person. While a female can be accepted as a woman once she passes the stage of a teenager, a male may not be accepted at the stage. For a male to become a man, he must be able to have some desisions of his own. However, a male person can become a man at 18 and above provided he has the following qualities:

• Integrity
• Responsibility
• Self-discipline
• Emotional intelligence
• Authenticity
• Respect.

1. WHY MEN CHEAT?

Unlike women's numerous reasons for cheating, men have a specific reason for cheating. Infidelity is a difficult issue with diverse factors.
Men consider cheating because of:

• Lack of emotional intimacy:
  When a man feels disconnected from their partner, they seek emotional connection elsewhere.
• Lack of sexual satisfaction:
  This reason seems to be the most popular reason why men consider cheating. When a man is unsatisfied with his sexual desires or needs, he seek physical fulfillment outside the relationship. Men desire sex a lot, but if the sexual activities between him and his wife become boring due to: Same pattern, no romance, lack of proper communication, lack of interest; he will want to experience a lively sex connection elsewhere.
• Lack of respect and happiness:
  When a man feels disrespected and unhappy in a relationship, he tries to get his respect and happiness elsewhere.
• Revenge and payback:
  When a man feels his wife is having an affair, he will tend to revenge his wife by also cheating on her.
  Men seem to cheat a lot when their wives disrespect them or give them happiness below their expectations.

1. SIGNS OF MEN'S INFIDELITY:

• He keeps secrets in phones
• He keeps late night
• He becomes distant and often requests for space.
• He feels guilty even when not caught
• He picks fights or criticize his partner often
• He reduces communication with his wife
• He misbehaves at times
• He spends money unnecessary
• He guides his phones or computers strictly and stays in social media often.
• He lies a lot

1. CONSEQUENCES OF HIS ACTION:

• When a man cheats on his wife, he hurts the wife and betrays the wife's trust.
• He commands less respect from his wife and children
• He may contact STIs ( Sexual Transmitted Infections).
• Unwanted pregnancy may occur
• His relationship with his wife may come to an end
• Most times leads to death of either of the partners

1. FINAL CONSIDERATION AND MORALS:

Lack of attention, connection and intimacy from the wife is not a yardstick for a man to cheat. Any man who consider the feelings of his wife will not cheat. Your wife is not perfect and the one outside is not perfect either.
There's no special achievement for cheating on your wife.
If you wouldn't like your wife to cheat on you, why doing it or trying to do it?
Stop it!
Resist the feelings!
Cut the connection at once!
Get close to your wife.
Stop comparing her to other women!
Do your marital duties, communicate well and respect her.
Put your family in order, you are a man.
These are some of your responsibilities.

Note: You are a responsible man, and without you, your family, the church, mosque, and the society have a lot of issues.

If you really want to amend your ways and have a good marriage, meet a psychologist, counselor, or explore the internet for more solutions. Enough is Enough! Your wife deserves better. Do not hurt her if you are planning to, and don't hurt her anymore, if you have done it already. LOVE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING!

Thank you my fellow steemians for reading.
Lastly, check back for the next topic ( Tips to having a beautiful relationship and marriage); which will be dropping soon.

@emmathompson